Love is the Answer
I grew up terrified of love and all it stood for. Whenever anyone came remotely close to me, or even headed in that direction, I ran faster than possible. I could and would not allow myself to face what love represented to me, although my mind and heart longed for it. I had taken on the beliefs that I was not lovable, that people would only be pretending and showing kindness by befriending me, that I didn’t deserve love in my life, that there was nothing here, in me, for anyone to love. All I was, was me. I felt of no value to anything or anyone in this world. There was no reason for my being.
Needless to say, as I progressed with my personal healing journey, love was seen as a topic that had to be resolved.
Perhaps because the issue of love is what makes us feel good about ourselves, and without that belief, we have nothing to build lives on. We need to believe we deserve to live, that we have a place in this world, that there is a reason for our existing and that we are special. We need to believe that we belong.
Working on and through my love issues became an aspect of my life for more than a year. As I would work on various areas, things kept coming back to love. It seemed to be the base of everything, much to my confusion.
So I let it continue in its own time and method. I had no specific plan of where it was heading, actually I had no idea what the outcome would be, only that I would remain determined to listen to all feelings when they surfaced and do their work. I wanted to be free of this fear of love.
I suppose I gradually changed, I know other people noticed a difference in me. I stopped being so focused on the sadness of not having love in my life, and became more settled and calm within myself. I became stronger in my belief of myself, and my place in the world. All the work I have undertaken affected love issues. That is the way of it because Love was my main life topic.
The following chapters (((This chapter is the introduction to the second part of the book, following the tools and release technique section))) depict my journey of discovering love. They are grouped rather than having a strict order.
As we progress with emotional clearing work, learning what love feels like and spending time enjoying that feeling naturally occurs, simultaneously. It is a nice balance.
(((Each chapter listed takes the reader through the process of healing that specific issue with practical exercises and activities to apply to themselves and their life)))
Understanding Love
Chapters: The Love Game, What is Love?
Firstly, I began by pondering love in depth, something not consciously done before. It was interesting to listen to all the beliefs of what love is and should be surface. I then began to understand where I was coming from, a place to commence this journey. Where do you begin?
Once this clear understanding had been formed, I could see love was not the specific topic, but rather working through all the issues preventing it was, so the pressure was off and I was able to relax. I did not know what love was, so I let it go completely for the time being, confident that I would discover its meaning as I progressed.
In doing so I enjoyed the experience of learning about love energy, and inline with the feeling chapter, incorporated happy experiences in my daily life.
Healing
Chapters: Healing Love Beliefs – Releasing Painful Emotions, memories and beliefs
Next I faced all my fears of love, the beliefs I had taken on from events with family, romantic relationships and unpleasant experiences. I searched them all out deliberately, clearing one by one.
As I worked through my releasing and healing issues, I found a sense of calm and peace began to form within me, little by little. My fears were reducing and the number of happier experiences increased.
Then one day, I was surprised to feel good about living.
With each step, I gained a greater awareness and understanding of myself and the world, and what this thing we call love isn’t. It is most definitely not what we have believed. I spent a great deal of time pulling all the pieces of this new knowledge together to discover my own new beliefs, as it affected each area of my personal work.
Feeling Love
Chapters: Subject: Learn, Love, Share & Appreciate, Friends, One Mystical Night, Questions – One Night Stands, Through the Eyes of a Child, Life is Crazy, I Want, Who Cares, Letting go of Love, My Dream.
I let myself feel it all, the happiness and sadness, the love and loss. It was a very special time to become this experience. I welcomed and enjoyed discovering my range of emotions and feelings. I wrote constantly of the feelings as they poured from my mind. I let the words flow without thought, allowing them to tell me the story of love.
The more I allowed myself to become a part of this experience, the more I grew.
The Change
Chapters: Visions, Past, Present & Future Selves, I have a Dream, Friendship – Pairing, Dream Lovers, There is only One, Everything is created with Love Energy
One day, I had an experience whereby I realized that I was ready and open to invite love into my life. I had healed all my issues blocking it. That is when the magic began as you will read.
Love is an energy, to be felt and experienced. An energy to smile at and enjoy feeling. It fills my being with warmth and makes my heart pound. It is a most beautiful state of mind.
When we discover this state of mind, the world becomes a new magical place. All we interact with seem to change and come to us to share love and kindness. All that we experience makes us smile from within. Each moment that we become part of a now experience, increases our ability to feel everything more deeply, which serves to strengthen this love energy. We move from the perception of coming from or basing everything on past fears, thoughts and experiences, to delighting in our future ones.
We literally float and feel and experience our future joys, in the same manner we did with our past sadness. We find what we wish to be and do with our lives, what makes us smile from the inside out.
We spend our time creating and participating in our future movies, yet to become. And, we feel and spend wondrous energy times with our soul mate of choice, preparing for this to materialize and complete the picture.
Coming Together
Love, Soul Mates, The Birds & the Bees, Self Confidence, Accepting, Connections, Phone Calls, Me, Dare To Be You, A Christmas Wish, The Year of Enjoyment
What occurred during this section was most unexpected. It is a transition time which marked the end of working alone within my safe cocoon, to coming together with dear soul friends who helped me learn how to bring all that I have learned into the outside world with real people. Their love and care was so strong that it gave me the strength and courage to face my biggest fears and anxieties of relating to the opposite sex.
Living Love
Chapters: And the Secret of Life is Revealed, Who am I you ask?, Dancing in the Wind, Conclusion
As soon as Janet completed Heal Your Heart – A Journey to find your Soul Mate, she did just that and now lives the Ultimate dream of love with her Buddy Soul Mate, Marc.
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