Let’s face it, emotions hurt!
Overwhelming stress and worry make you physically ill, your heart can literally feel like it is breaking after a loss, panic raises blood pressure, makes you sweat and can even tighten your chest to the point that it feels like a heart attack, and fear makes you shake. Emotions also hinder your ability to think and act rationally, or even function.
Understandably, people will do anything to silence their painful emotions so they can pretend they don’t exist.
People really are scared of emotions because they can have a mind of their own and take control. Generally, people do not understand, know how to control, deal with, or resolve emotions simply and effectively.
Because of this need to find a way to stop the pain, various methods are tried.
Thinking about the emotion
At some point, everyone has searched for information about their particular emotion, pondered or tried to understand it.
We have the idea in our mind that when we find the right answer, a light globe will go off and we will magically understand the emotion and then instantly resolve it.
How can you understand ‘feeling’ with thought? Feelings and thoughts are two entirely different mental processes, and that’s why it can be so hard to describe various emotions with words.
Therefore, you cannot resolve an emotion by thinking about it!
Rationalizing with it
Okay, so you sit down with your emotion and try to tell it about itself. No it wasn’t so bad, there’s no need to be this upset, it happened for a reason so now you can just stop existing, etc.
What this actually does is devalue you by telling yourself that what you feel isn’t right, normal, or valid.
Every single thing you feel in reaction to an event IS valid and a perfectly normal response!
What you feel is NORMAL and there is nothing wrong with you!
Ignoring it
You wake up feeling anxious and just don’t have the time or energy to deal with this today, so you take a stand with yourself and firmly tell this emotion that it is not real, and to shut up.
Quite often this works, so well that we can endure horrible experiences and feel nothing emotionally because we have taught ourselves not to feel emotions.
Have you ever noticed that you get a cold, physically feel tight, dizzy, sick in the stomach, have sciatic or an aching back during stressful times?
When you prevent yourself from feeling the emotion, you body will feel it for you!
Affirmations
Many people think affirmations are letting go of emotions, but what they really do is trick your mind into not feeling them temporarily. All you need do is think of that situation and the emotion comes right back up.
Ever wondered why events repeat, over and over and over? Or why your mind chatter gets louder and louder and louder?
Until you deal with the cause of the emotion, it will keep surfacing as repeat events. And hey, if you are ignored, don’t you say it louder and louder until they acknowledge you?
Your emotions and mind chatter are merely natural ways of telling you that something is wrong and needs your attention.
Shutting down
When experiences are too painful, we naturally close down our feeling so we don’t have to feel the pain. That’s just a valid survival instinct.
The thing is that when we close down our ability to feel pain we also close down our ability to feel love and happiness, so life becomes very flat and unpleasant.
The more we shut down our emotions, the more we shut down life.
The answer is to ELIMINATE THE CAUSE of painful emotions!
Yes it is quite possible! We just forgot that we had the option.
Rather than just sitting in painful emotions we can spend about 30 minutes doing a very simple technique that will reveal the cause, heal and permanently release it so we can walk away with a smile and never feel any emotional discomfort about this particular topic again.
“I was intrigued and found the session deceptively simple and yet so effective in helping one get past hurt and deep pain.” Elaine
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Stop allowing your emotions to rule your life!
