Myths about grief cause additional pain and suffering. They serve to spread a mass belief that the grieving person willingly accepts as their new truth, drastically altering their own ability to heal from this traumatic experience.
The only reality of grief to accept as your truth, is what you personally experience and feels right for you, no matter what anyone else says.
Myths and Realities about Grief
- MYTH: We never “get over” our grief. We only become reconciled to it and learn to cope and live with the reality of a loved one’s death.
If you take on this belief then you will have no hope of ever feeling better again.
Reality: You definitely can heal and “get over” your grief. And then, whenever you think of your loved one you will smile and feel pure love for them and the time you spent together.
- MYTH: There is no specific process, no healing formula, no right way to manage grief. However, there are healthy, effective ways to cope.
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Reality: There is a specific process, there is a healing formula and there is a defined way you can manage and heal from your grief.
Why cope (accept and make the best of something you can’t change – repress and try to ignore your pain and heartache) when you can heal?
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- MYTH: “Healing” and “getting over” loss means that you have to “forget” and “let go” of the deceased in order to get on with life.
Reality: If you had a way to stop and heal the pain of a deep wound in your hand, wouldn’t you do everything possible to heal that wound? Releasing the painful emotions and wounds we carry around in relation to loss is the same idea.
Healing does not mean you forget or let go of your loved one.
- MYTH: Grief is not an emotional reaction.
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Reality: If you have felt the overwhelming emotions after the death of your loved one then you know this myth is false.
Grief is most certainly an emotional reaction. It is an overwhelming experience that sends your emotions, mind, thoughts, and entire being into shock.
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- MYTH: There are a specific set of stages of grief that everyone experiences.
Reality: While people will often experience similar emotional and situational experiences of grief (sadness, hurt, overwhelmed, mind chatter, worry etc.), individual experiences vary from person to person.
- MYTH: The longer you mourn the more you show your love for the deceased.
While some people accept the loss of their loved one and are able to begin reinvesting in their new life without the physical presence of their loved one, other people hesitate to fully embrace their new life because they believe it will indicate a lack of true love for the deceased.
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Reality: Love has no time limits or boundaries. You do not have to feel pain to show that you love someone. When you allow yourself to fully experience your grief and mourning, then release it when you are ready, you will feel content and comfortable that you have mourned. You will have honored your loved one and naturally feel ready to reinvest in your life again.
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- MYTH: Time heals all wounds.
Reality: Time merely gives you more time to become better skilled at repressing your emotional pain. But as we all know, repressed pain has a habit of popping up when we least expect it to.
- MYTH: We slowly and predictably recover from grief.
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Reality: Without releasing, some people still overcome their grief naturally, while other people feel the devastation of this event for the rest of their life.
Unresolved emotions are just like any other life situation where things are left hanging. Unfinished. The pain just keeps being added one upon the other, until it can grow so overwhelming that you can’t seem to function or find joy in any aspect of your life.
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The benefit of releasing and therefore dealing with these Emotions of Grief, is that you can go on and be happy, resume your life, and create something new out of the pain you once experienced. Of course we will feel pain over any of our losses, but to know there is a way to heal that pain, is a great gift all by itself. Why would anyone choose to stay in pain if they could take action to release and heal themselves?
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Are you devastated after the loss of a loved one?
Confused by overwhelming emotions and strange symptoms?
Searching for a way to heal and recover?
Ready to let go of the pain?
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