The world is filled with angry people. All lashing out and fighting with each other. Yet anger is merely an expression of the overwhelming pain and hurt that is stored inside.
You are not a bad person for feeling angry or for lashing out at your loved ones. On the contrary, you are hurting
- and if you are reading this page then you want it to end as much as your loved ones do.
The key to end anger is to access and resolve it’s cause directly in the unconscious mind – which is what Greene’s Release specializes in.
You will discover that anger and its cause is not complicated at all, but instead simple, and extremely easy to access and resolve.
“What do I do about family members who can’t believe the change?
My hubby said “Where’s my angry wife gone?”
and my son said “Mum’s been taken away by an alien.”
Even I can’t believe the change in me, it’s wonderful,
a relaxed and happy environment at last.”
Understand Your Anger
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“Lashing out in anger has been my response to most everything as a protection mechanism for me. While I have tried other therapeutic approaches, Greene’s Release, allowed ME to understand why I choose anger over other emotions. Especially those emotions that can be positive.
Now, I feel my joy and worth, calmly state my hurts and needs. I feel more responsible and actionable (in a positive manner) for my emotional state. Greene’s Release led me to understanding and compassion for myself.”
Greene’s Release Result
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Anger is an emotion – a spontaneous reaction to life events. Each person has a dominant emotional response to stressful life events. These include hurt, sadness, being overwhelmed, and anger.
Individual responses to situations are not dependent on the type of event but your particular dominant emotional response. That’s why two people can have entirely different emotional responses to the same event.
While hurt, anxiety and sadness are strong emotions that make life difficult, they are mostly silent and only known to the person experiencing them. Anger on the other hand is an emotion that is physically displayed – yelling, screaming, emotional outbursts, destruction of property, fighting, and physical attacks.
The person whose dominant emotional response to life stressors is anger often behaves in ways that are socially frowned upon. They have to deal with the emotional and behavioral responses of the recipients of their outburst.
The thing is that no matter what your particular emotional response, it is automatic, not planned, and reactive so you can neither control nor understand it, which can leave you feeling very confused and angry with yourself.
Recipients of your outbursts have no idea that this is an automatic response, so they take the behaviors personally and react to it according to their own particular emotional response.
The anger response is a vicious cycle that can impact far and wide.
Why Do I Get So Angry?
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“I would hide the hurt from her – I wouldn’t let her see me cry – you can’t make me cry.
Now I know that it is ok to cry about a hurt.
I am good enough!
I think I feel more sorry for her looking back on it.
Anger covering up hurt. Wow! That is a surprising revelation!“
Greene’s Release Result
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Anger has been your method of hiding your hurt and pain. It has been your way of being strong instead of weak and emotional. Anger feeds adrenaline and doing this makes it harder to realize and take the first step to end it.
And today, right now, you need to know and take a stand against anger. Think of it as a third person, an emotion that is hurting too many people and damaging lives. Unless you wish to knowingly hurt people, then you have to take action. Right now!
Perhaps you grew up in an abusive and angry home, or one where emotions were viewed as weak. Perhaps you decided to hide your emotions from those who said cruel things to you, by being angry. Perhaps you have absolutely no idea why you get so angry.
Yet you spend your time trying to figure it out in your logical mind. Perhaps even going to anger management classes or looking everywhere for something that makes sense of it. Anger is your life topic, so keep reading and it will all make sense.
Self Test – Is Anger Controlling Your Life?
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“I felt angry all the time and it was taking a toll on me and my relationship.
I realized I couldn’t go
on like that any longer and hurt the people
I love the most.
I had to put a stop to it.
Greene’s Release helped me empty the bucket of anger and pain I had in my heart. And this was all due to my upbringing and traumas I’d suffered.
Now, I feel more in control and lighter. The weight in my heart has been lifted and I don’t feel the awful anger I felt. I am confident that I can have a better handle on things and situations as they may arise due to Greene’s Release.”
Greene’s Release Result
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Take a couple of days to think about the following questions and find your own answers. Remember that it is natural to feel angry when you feel ignored or demeaned, or when people treat you disrespectfully.
1. What is happening in your life?
Are you doing what you love to do, being the person it feels natural to be, and surrounded by people who love you?
2. Are life events dramatic?
Is your life flowing along happily or does it seem like everything is going wrong, with unhappy experiences being repeated constantly?
3. Do you feel full?
Are you filled up and fed up with the sadness and unhappiness of life, and just wish to escape it all?
4. What do you think of people and your interactions with them? Do you generally like or dislike people? Are they usually kind and helpful, or always seem to be doing things just to annoy you?
5. How often do you get angry? Do you get angry at little things, or seem to explode at the slightest incident? Are you an angry person? Do you even know why you get angry all the time?
6. Make a list of what your life comprises, then examine it.
What are the components of your daily life, the regular events and situations, and your emotions and feelings.
7. Is your anger a natural response to individual events or seem to be an out of proportion emotional response that has taken control of your life?
Where Does The Anger Come From?
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“I realized that my husband’s particular behavior was a trigger and he wasn’t the issue. After lifting layer after layer I realized that I had been suppressing all this pain. It all amounted to childhood pain – so much of it – gosh I had no idea.
I was able to release pain, sadness and afterward I was able to sit peacefully and get in touch with the little girl inside me that had been feeling all this pain and sadness and talk to her and comfort her.”
Greene’s Release Result
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The frequency and intensity of your anger is due to the quadruple dose of triggers that you are exposed to. You are filled with anger to overflowing.
Anger as an Emotion: As with all emotions, anger is a naturally valid response to experiences. It is normal to feel angry when we are treated badly, when we are hurt and when we are abandoned or abused – yet many people repress their anger as it is viewed as wrong. It is also normal to feel angry when we avoid our “hurt” emotions.
Repressed Anger: Whenever we avoid our emotions they are compounded with the previously repressed ones and stored in our unconscious mind.
Therefore, the anger you feel today is not a reaction to today’s event, but instead comprise the anger you have felt every single time you have experienced this same event.
That’s why the intensity of your responses do not match the current situation.
Your inner storage bucket of anger is filled to overflowing!
Anger as a Dominant Emotional Response: Whenever you are upset, stressed, or the hurt and pain that’s stored in your unconscious mind is triggered, you automatically respond with anger – your dominant emotional response.
- The current situation → creates an automatic emotional response
→ anger (your dominant emotional response).
- The current situation → triggers one of your life issues → creating an emotional response → anger (your dominant emotional response).
Anger as A Life Topic:
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“It goes way back, childhood sexual abuse, and as adult anger for not being able to express my emotions verbally. I’m shut down. Angry for decisions I made that I feel I should have known better, angry because I’m physically dependent on people. Anger wants to yell at dad, for everything. Yell and cry for the stuff that happened. Angry because I thought I’d healed everything. Anger wants to spin out of control until it can’t go anymore!
Think about the topic again, what do you feel?
“Nothing! *laughing*
It is Finished!
She felt the sadness and was relieved, we replaced it with love – she smiled when I hugged her.”
Greene’s Release Result
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- Our lives revolve around life topics, and events which are continually repeated in order to push ourselves to go within, heal and discover the meaning of life, as the only means of escaping the situations these life topics create.
While life topics are very upsetting and dramatic while people are still within them, I see the joy and excitement when people are freed. Child abuse is amazing, as the happiness of the exuberant child immediately jumps up when releases are completed – as you see in many of the comments.
It is often a contradiction that many people have to push themselves to such extremes before they are willing to learn about life
- especially when the journey is so incredibly special, and the outcome is what we all dream of having – nirvana.
Anger as a life topic provides the opportunity to learn and experience the exact opposite life; that you are a special person, to awaken to love yourself, your family, your community, your country, the world, to feel valued, respected, safe, and much more…
You can discover the opportunities your anger life topic gives you by writing down the exact opposite of what you currently think of yourself, people, your relationships, life and the world. Imagine living that life!
- Many life topic events involve 3 emotional responses – an emotional shock that it happened, anger, and hurt. Typical anger topics include abuse, adoption, parent’s divorce, death of a parent, being bullied or made fun of at school, embarrassing experiences.
Some of the strongest anger responses I have personally witnessed during release sessions have come from people who were physically, sexually or emotionally abused as children, or who were abandoned or adopted. But I have also seen deep resentment and anger as a result of a teacher’s public chastising.
Yet most of these people had absolutely no idea that they were holding onto any anger about the event at all because it was hidden behind their repressed shock and hurt emotions.
“If I Could Stop Feeling Angry All The Time – Everything Would Be Fine”
Of course you would think this, and want to stay focused on anger alone. But your anger is a symptom - why you are angry is the actual topic.
It is like lining up buckets under a leaking roof (to cope with the symptom of dripping water) rather than getting the roof fixed.
Which would you prefer to do? Learn how to better cope with the symptom (angry outbursts) or resolve the cause of your anger.
Why You Haven’t Been Able To Resolve Your Anger
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“I didn’t realize how much pain I’d been suppressing until after I had the baby. I found myself in unknown territory and feeling very overwhelmed.
Looking at my baby triggered really bad memories of child molestation. The things I was remembering caused me to have great fear which was later replaced with sadness and anger. In my attempt to try to suppress these feelings again, I completely disconnected from my child and couldn’t get close.
I wanted to get help and didn’t know where to turn until I finally found the Greene’s Release website. I am glad I did it and look forward to good things to come into my life.
I feel like a weight has been lifted and am now spending my time trying to re-connect with my baby and build good memories and feel great emotions thanks to Greene’s Release.
I am no longer sad or angry and overwhelmed because of what happened to me. I just feel compassion for that little girl.
I hope if you are ever in a situation like this, you turn to this great program/experience.”
Greene’s Release Result
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When you understand why your previous efforts to resolve your anger have failed, you will be open and ready to permanently resolve your anger via a different approach.
Counseling: What do you do in your counseling sessions? Talk about anger, rationalize it, decide to modify your behavior, prepare steps to stop and redirect the anger emotion when it surfaces? Does it work? Or does it merely help you cope with the daily symptom of anger?
- You cannot understand an emotion that originates in your unconscious mind by consciously thinking about it!
- You cannot change or control an emotion that originates in your unconscious mind by consciously telling it to stop!
Avoidance: Okay, so you feel the anger welling up inside, and you decide to deliberately stop it before it gets out of hand. Does this work? Short-term or long-term?
Every time you deliberately avoid an emotion you repress and send it inside to compound with your other stored emotions. You are full of emotions – that is why they are bursting out at the seams.
- Avoiding emotions does not dissolve them!
Hypnosis, mind control, meditation, NLP: There are many wonderful methods that do help anger emotions – in the short term. “Are you ready to let it go?”, “can you let it go?” But, what happens next time your anger is triggered? Do you really want to have to continually deal with the symptoms, over and over and over again?
- Band-aid methods don’t resolve the cause of anger!
- They only teach you how to better cope with the symptoms!
- Each time you repress an emotion with a band-aid method, you are increasing your stockpile of angry emotions!
Investigating anger: There is an abundance of literature about emotions, and anger. You may understand it in great detail, but does that enable you to apply this information to your physical life and resolve the cause of your anger whenever it is triggered?
- You cannot resolve an emotion by intellectualizing it!
Your efforts to resolve your anger have failed for 2 reasons:
- Your focus has been to cope with the symptoms instead of resolving the cause.
- It is impossible to consciously address something (the cause of your anger) that is beyond conscious awareness.
Decide to Heal Your Anger
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“I told my 12 year old that I was starting Greene’s Release and he said
“But you won’t be my mom if you’re not angry all the time.”
That’s when I knew I had to do something!
I am so glad that I did! Everything has changed. My life, my relationship with my son.
I am happy at last.”
Greene’s Release Result
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All it takes is one decision, to totally transform your life!
Have you ever woken up and heard a decision come to mind out of the blue. “I am going to get a new job”, “I am going to move out of my parents house”, “I am going to change my life”, and you did it.
These decisions are spontaneous statements of intent. They are statements of what has to become your reality, no questions, no doubts. They are what you have decided has to be, so they are naturally fulfilled.
Are you ready to change your life? Are you ready to reach your spontaneous decision that enough is enough? Are you ready to claim the exact opposite life? This podcast will help you reach this decision.
You Can Heal Your Anger
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“When I can’t control my feelings and the chatter in my head, all this anger comes out of nowhere and I lash out at people. I just get so angry and want to explode.
My baby is scared of me and cries for his father.
I am able to feel love for my son now, and have started getting close to him. Something I couldn’t allow myself to do before. I do see a change, he is more loving and wants to be around me more.”
Greene’s Release Result
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Thinking about anger does not resolve it – as you have already discovered. As strange as it may sound, thinking about your problems actually prevents you from resolving them.
The good news is that Greene’s Release shows you how to go beyond thinking about it, to actually get to and dissolve its base cause.
So there is no longer a need to think about or focus on anger, tell yourself to “stop being angry“, understand your anger, or even decide that you have to look at your anger in a different way. You can relax!
You’ll learn how to easily go beyond your limited problem solving mindset, right to where the cause of your problems are stored.
Then it’s a simple process of using the Greene’s Release technique’s to completely and permanently resolve and dissolve it.
Once you experience it first hand it won’t seem impossible or complicated at all – as you can see by the comments people make.
The results amaze me every single time!
Our workbook Heal Your Self: A Journey to Find You, which includes the Greene’s Release technique, shows you how to heal the cause of your anger as part of transforming your entire life.
It won’t seem like work at all, or as if you are doing anything about anger. Initially, you can expect to do things that wake up your mind and stimulate your senses, rather than charge into analyzing and brainstorming solutions for your anger problems (which as you know, doesn’t work).
This unique approach is the key to developing the necessary skills so you can take a walk right into your unconscious mind to resolve and dissolve the base cause of your anger with the Greene’s Releasing Technique.
But you don’t have to wait until then to see changes in your life. Because the workbook involves tools that you learn by physically experiencing and applying them to your specific life circumstances, your everyday life automatically changes without effort, as each exercise builds upon the previous.
You CAN do this. You CAN heal your anger. There is no reason for you to continually live with this pain. All it takes is 30 minutes a day to heal and gain control over all aspects of your life.
If you’d like to experience the kind of dramatic, positive change the Greene’s Release materials can create in your life, take a look some workbook excerpts then order Heal Your Self: A Journey to Find You workbook today and take the first step to change your life.
Phobia Stories
I do however appreciate the paralyzing fear and anxiety that I must have experienced with the following stories that led me to act this way.
The Clothes Line
I had a special basket to keep the pegs in, and would carefully bring them inside with the wash each day, then soak them in water overnight, or buy new pegs each week and only wash once a week. Sometimes I used rubber gloves so I didn’t have to touch the spiders webs on the pegs.
My clothes often stayed on the line for days on end, until I could convince a friend to get them for me while I stood on a chair, diligently watching for any sign of web or movement.
Once, a lovely elderly neighbor knocked on my door, asking if there were a problem as my clothes had been on the line for 2 weeks, and if she could be of assistance. I smiled, grateful for her non-judgmental help. She even put the clothes straight into the washing machine to be rewashed, as I couldn’t touch them. They dried on an inside clothes rack this time. It was about a year before I used an outside clothesline again.
Son’s Hand
One time, when my eldest was at a sleepover, my son and I decided to be brave and take charge of the monster Huntsman that was keeping us from going to bed. As always, I stood on my kitchen chair at the far end of the hallway, while he stood with bowl in hand, ready to pounce and trap the monster (which would remain under the bowl until a neighbor or friend removed it).
I sprayed the swipe-a-fly and screamed as the spider ran frantically across the ceiling, then dropped. My son ran as fast as he could to cover it and end this drama. But he had forgotten that the new slate floor was harder than the previously carpeted one, and his hand went straight through the glass bowl as he slammed it on the floor.
My son dropped to the floor in shock seeing the blood pouring from his hand. Meanwhile, the spider ran into the office, where the telephone was, and I was left standing on my chair shaking in terror.
After attending to my son’s hand and shock (a regular occurrence due to his disability), and laying him down on the living room floor, I was faced with a dilemma. I needed to get to the phone (we had no cordless phone at that time) which was trapped in a room with the Huntsman spider.
I was brave. I ran for the phone (which was on an extension cord) and called the hospital. My son was fine and didn’t need stitches. The Huntsman ruled the office until a search-and-capture was undertaken by a brave friend the next day.
Long Drive To Work
As a young bank junior, I secured a lift to and from work each day until I was old enough to get my license. One morning, just after getting into the car, a huge Huntsman climbed out of the dashboard. Well, I screamed so loud that my two companions thought I was dying. They stopped the car as quickly as possible. Still screaming for them to move so I could get out, I literally jumped over the person next to me and out the door to safety.
The spider had vanished – and we were still 20 minutes drive from work. I had to sit on top of the bench seat headboard, holding my extremely short miniskirt tight around my legs all the way to work.
Since they couldn’t find the spider, I refused to get back into the car for the journey home. I never drove in that car again. Luckily I got my license a few weeks later.
Night Time
When out on a date, I would tell him the safest place to park (where I knew there were no webs). Then I’d make him go to the house, unlock and open the front door, and come back to my side of the car – so I could get out and cower behind him as we both ran as fast as we could inside. It was a well-organized epic.
The Gerbera Daisy
One night, Dave, my best spider catcher was kind enough to help after a frantic call at midnight. But this spider was being difficult and tested his bravery. So Dave decided to use the fly spray.
Never ever use fly spray on an Australian Huntsman spider. They go psycho. Use swipe-a-fly -It is brilliant!
This spider was running from one end of the house to the other as if in an Olympic race. Poor Dave had no hope of catching it, so we waited for it to run out of steam. Three hours later, the spider was tired and decided to stop running.
I had the prettiest hot pink Gerbera daisy that sat on my kitchen table. Guess where the spider decided to go to sleep? In the center of the daisy. Goodbye daisy, and goodbye spider.
Painting The House
One day, while painting the front window frames on the house, I decided that I could get up on the ladder and finish the top edge myself. All I had to do was not look down. It worked brilliantly, and I quickly finished my painting project.
But there was just one small problem: I had to climb down the ladder. I froze. I stood there for 30 minutes trying to convince myself to take that first step, but couldn’t. So instead, I climbed up, onto my flat tin roof.
I was happy on my roof. Drinks, food, and even cigarettes were brought up to me. The hours ticked on and the crowd of neighbors gathered. At one point there were 30 people having a party in my front yard, as I happily sat on my roof.
They all tried, but no-one could convince me to climb down. Finally, as the sun started to set, one neighbor decided that enough was enough. He climbed the ladder, had me lay down on my stomach and then back up to the edge. This poor man, who I barely knew, laid his body across mine and ever so carefully guided me down the ladder.
Everyone cheered!
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